How to Handle the Pre-Wedding Jitters

By: Alexine

Right now you are going through one of the most emotionally draining processes you will ever experience. The six moths leading up to your wedding seem to go by very slow. Decisions need to be made and feelings tend to get the best of you. Don’t worry and relax. The best way to get through this is by taking it one day at a time.

Although you are madly in love with your fiancé and so excited about the wedding, the reality of marriage and planning the wedding will sink in. Don’t stress yourself out about these feelings of uncertainty or questions. They are normal and most women experience this. I like to refer to them as pre-wedding jitters.

Handling the wedding jitters is a challenge but if you go through each area of uncertainty and question in your head things will begin to settle down inside. I’m going to address some of the most common issues people struggle with before the wedding and give a bit of insight and advice.

When it comes to the ceremony you may not know what church to have the wedding at due to a difference in your religious backgrounds. This is a common dilemma and can easily be solved by having a wedding in a non-denominational church that won’t be uncomfortable for either person. Or if it’s summer you can have an outdoor ceremony with a justice of the peace. They usually offer numerous vows from all backgrounds and you have the option to write your own vows.

Another struggle is with one of the most common family matters; divorced parents. The easiest way to solve this problem is by making a moms table and dads table instead of the traditional bride and groom parent tables. This eliminates the divorcees from having to sit together and allows them to enjoy the wedding and feel comfortable.

Choosing the wedding attendants is difficult enough and when you are trying to make the party symmetrical (same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen) it can be a bit of a headache. Eliminate the stress by writing a list of the men and women you each want in the wedding without worrying about equal numbers. Then talk each person through and pick your maid of honor and let him pick his best man (which can be either a man or a woman on both accounts).

Ta-da! But wait there is one more very important wedding jitter that comes over a lot of people before the wedding; a mild case of cold feet. I really feel strongly about this one because everything might be going smoothly until a couple weeks out and then questions start running through your head.

• Am I content with being with this one man for the rest of my life?
• Am I too young/old to be getting married?
• Is this what is best for me in the long run in life?

Don’t stress over these feelings. Marriage is a huge commitment and takes a lot of work. If you are wondering if the grass is greener, stop thinking about that. You are in love with this person and just dealing with a case of wedding jitters. Once the wedding is over you will settle into the marriage and things will be at peace again.

I wish you all the best of luck in this roller coaster ride called love. Once the wedding is over and things settle down you can relax and forget about all the stress you dealt with prior. Now you can focus on the most important thing of all; your love for each other!